Teh Suckz Thread

[victoriavictrix]

I think my depression about my age has a bit to do with my current health and finances besides the number. If we could buy a camper and travel, we would and I know that would make me very happy. But a trip to the ER a couple months ago, poor insurance (a $20,000 deductible and no I'm not f'ing kidding!) and a big tax hit have taken their toll on us this year. If I felt better, physically, I think it would be easier to cope. I'm allowing myself a weekend to sulk and sob and mope about it before I insist I buck up and take it like a woman.

I have finished my lovely bottle of Riesling and think I need some champagne to wash down this truffle.

I am 62, I will never be able to retire, everything hurts, and what doesn't hurt, doesn't work anymore.

Feel better now?

[Dirili]

I feel for you kenaiqueen
Well, I'm only 36, but I've wasted my life feeling like an old woman since I was like 25. Just the general disillusionment with the whole world, the bleak picture that is the future of humanity, much less the state of my little corner of the world.

And what's worse is knowing that there is worse and there are people in worse positions, so I shouldn't feel as miserable as I do and should appreciate what I have, but I don't.

Throughout my life, whenever something bad happened to me, there has always been someone standing next to me who's problem overshadowed mine and always felt like I didn't have the right to complain out loud because of that.

But your feelings are valid no matter what other people around you are experiencing, so I think it's something that you have the right to feel comfortable dealing with in whichever way you choose. Sometimes it's best for a person to wallow in it for a while and then it passes. Some people do better trying to ignore it though I feel like it's usually better psychologically to find a way to meet it head on.

You have us here to talk to if you don't have people irl that you're comfortable talking with. Some people feel better with irl support, others with semi-anonymous internet acquaintances. Sometimes it's just easier to open up when you are semi-hidden.

I've been floundering lately here. I always feel like I should try to support people here, but then part of me feels overwrought lately and I can't always bring myself to read and respond to all the things that people are going through here.

[DollyKim]

If you don't take care of yourself you can't take care of others. Feeling bad and sad for awhile is perfectly human, emotions are human, I wasn't aware there was a rule book for it. I've dealt with enough things to allow me to go on yet I still take a lot of Repress-it-all because I have no other way to get beyond it. In middle school I worked on the Wonder Years, listened to NKOTB and Julian Lennon, and strengthened my relationship with my dolls. If anything else happened it's under the rug and I beat the lumps with a spiked bat.

In the TBI support meetings we aren't allowed to compare injuries with each other so we don't care who has it "worse". We just know that we're still here and we're miracles.

[Dirili]

Well if you all don't hear from me for a while it will likely be because I lost power thanks to hurricane Sandy. Haven't yet, been lucky so far, but this is one reaaaally long storm. over the summer one of my sisters lost power for over week. I'd go nuts! Thinking with the huge amount of outages, people who lose it could be out for a while.

[kenaiqueen]

I am 62, I will never be able to retire, everything hurts, and what doesn't hurt, doesn't work anymore.

Feel better now?

No, it doesn't make me feel better. I never feel better knowing others have it worse. And, for that matter, I think you deserve far better and I admire you.

In the TBI support meetings we aren't allowed to compare injuries with each other so we don't care who has it "worse". We just know that we're still here and we're miracles.

I agree about comparisons or one-upmanship; they aren't fair or a good way to make yourself feel better. There will always be greater or lesser.

I know there are many things I can be thankful for and I am. I did say in my first post that I was aware it was just a little sucky thing. I wanted to sail thru my aging process with much more aplomb. It's not happening so far, but I'm trying to achieve some grace. Puttin' on the big girl panties now and going to work on that.

Dirili and all of you who are on the East Coast and in Sandy's path, I'm hoping you are all well and sending my best wishes that you safe.

[Kirahfaye]

I am 62, I will never be able to retire, everything hurts, and what doesn't hurt, doesn't work anymore.

Feel better now?

Some of us don't want you to retire, Misty! Personally, I can't wait for more on Mags .... (Do writers ever really retire or do they just one day slip quietly into one of their books? I can see Anne riding a dragon right now, can't you?)

But yeah ... getting older does have it's drawbacks. Still, it beats the heck out of the alternative! I might ache more than I did 10 years ago, but I'm also happier, wiser.

[Dirili]

Doesn't really belong here, but since i mentioned the hurricane, woo! No loss of electricity for me or my family!
Last I heard there were 700,000 people in New Jersey without power.

[Yanagi-sen]

Doesn't really belong here, but since i mentioned the hurricane, woo! No loss of electricity for me or my family!
Last I heard there were 700,000 people in New Jersey without power.

Same for me! Power flickered a couple times last evening, but was on all night, and no major flooding in my basement! ^___^

[DollyKim]

My grand aunt who wrote stories, never really published, wrote until the day she died. You just leave enough notes so they can literally ghost write for you and then the fans carry on. Look at Sherlock, which I think the estate has a hand in official business, but the fandom marches on.

[knittnkitten]

its snowing!