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This is bad news

PostPosted: Mon Oct 04, 2021 10:40 am
by embyquinn
I've been away from the board for a long time, and I'm sorry about that, I got kind of preoccupied with the so-called resin set. I haven't forgotten you guys, but I couldn't think of a good way to come back.

This isn't any way I would have chosen, but it will have to do. I need all the support I can get right now, we both do.

You've heard me talk about my life mate Barbara, she has been my life and my light and my reason for being for the past three decades. She is everything to me. She is beyond my mate, my friend, my sister. She is the other half of my being. The better half.

She had to go to the hospital last week. She was recovering from non-covid related pneumonia, and we thought that's all it was. It wasn't.

There is no nice way to say this and I've never been the most subtle person on the planet, so I'm just saying it right out. She's got extended small cell lung cancer that has metastasized to her liver. The best prognosis they can give her is 3 years or more. If she doesn't respond well to treatment she's going to have less than a year.

She's had her first chemo treatment, and she responded well to that, but she's really weak. they're supposed to start immunotherapy today. We can't take it any farther than that until we see how things go.

She's looking into early medical retirement from her job which she loves. Meanwhile I'm working 12-hour days and half a day on Saturdays to try and keep up with the bills. We just opened a GoFundMe and if anyone wants details on that I'll be happy to post it. Anything anyone can do would be welcome. This is going to be expensive, and it's going to be hard, and it is terrifying.

Barbara is looking on this is a great adventure. I'm looking on this as the end of both our lives.

I'm sorry to come back with such horrible news, but I am not dealing with this at all well. I am lost in a sea of absolute horror and misery and I am trying to hold despair at Bay with my teeth and fingernails. I lost my father to lung cancer, and this is my worst nightmare. Quite literally.

Re: This is bad news

PostPosted: Mon Oct 04, 2021 12:04 pm
by Kirahfaye
If I could reach through this screen and give you the biggest hug, I certainly would! I'm heading to my closet and getting down on my knees for you and Barbara when I finish typing this. If you aren't a big believer in prayer, that's okay. I am and right now that's something positive I can do for you right now.
{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

Re: This is bad news

PostPosted: Mon Oct 04, 2021 1:22 pm
by kenaiqueen
So sorry to hear this. Wishing you peace, strength and love!

Re: This is bad news

PostPosted: Mon Oct 04, 2021 1:39 pm
by Jobee
I'm so sorry. This sounds like the end of the world.

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PostPosted: Mon Oct 04, 2021 1:53 pm
by embyquinn
Jobee wrote:I'm so sorry. This sounds like the end of the world.

If I lose her, it'll be the end of my world. But she's not gone. She's not even dying. She's very sick, and it's very serious, but we're going to fight this every single step of the way.

Re: This is bad news

PostPosted: Mon Oct 04, 2021 4:39 pm
by embyquinn
I feel awful asking for this, but we're pretty desperate and I'm choking down my pride. Anything you can give, anything, will be welcome. We need help to live through this.
https://gofund.me/b79154c1

Re: This is bad news

PostPosted: Mon Oct 04, 2021 8:14 pm
by Tam I am
I just lost my best friend at the beginning of August, so I feel you. He wasn't a drinker, but liver cancer took him so quickly that I never even got a chance to go see him in care.

This is supposed to be empathetic sympathy, but I know it probably doesn't help much. I'm sorry.

Re: This is bad news

PostPosted: Tue Oct 05, 2021 4:58 am
by DollyKim
~hugs~

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PostPosted: Tue Oct 05, 2021 6:04 am
by maywong
I am sorry to hear this. Big hugs.

Re: This is bad news

PostPosted: Fri Oct 08, 2021 12:09 pm
by Mary Kathryn
((((embyquinn)))))