Dollieh Sanctuary

Maybe its just me but do you ever feel guilty when you want a new doll? Like when you have money left over from something and you think "I want a new doll" when you already have 8 or so? because I seem to always feel guilty wanting a new doll when I already have Ricky, Todd, hikaru and my pinky streets. I always feel like "oh but I could put it towards charity" or a save the wild life thing or something like that

but instead I want a new doll
does anyone else feel this way sometimes?

Mom taught us to e sensible and practical shoppers. I get the guilty feeling for buying something so frivolous. I ease the feeling by paying an extra few hundred toward the principle of my mortgage every time I get one.

I feel guilty ALL. THE. TIME.

My parents never had a lot of money so for a long time I was used to not having a lot of money, but I've gone a bit overboard or something once I discovered dolls, and I just bought my second big Obitsu on my creditcard even though I don't know what my first paycheck from working as a substitute teacher will look like... NOT the wisest thing to do. Also, I feel guilty towards my boyfriend. When I was sitting behind my laptop and the auction for my second girl was about to end in 20 seconds - I was gonna place my bid at the very last 5 seconds - he just started at me like "You're not buying any expensive things for a while now, okay..?", without seeing what I was doing. He still doesn't know a second big dollieh is coming up soon and I'm feeling really bad about that. It's, um, not something I can easily hide once she arrives XD

- edit - I just told my boyfriend. I explained that Sosha demanded a buddy because she doesn't like my smaller dolliehs. XD I think he understood. Kinda. But he's asked me to spend not so much anymore now and be a little wiser.. and I can only say he's right. I will be patient now and save up for a Visuadoll Moegi and until then I won't buy anything else ^^. I think.

The best advice I can give is to check your own priorities. Only you know what they are. One of the wisest things I've ever been told is that to see what you truly find important in life is to look to where your money goes. You spend on what you believe in your heart to be important. It is kind of a reality check. Sometimes what you find out can be sobering.

That said, it doesn't mean that if you want to save the whales, or whatever, that every extra dime you have needs to go toward that. There's nothing wrong with that if you want to, but it's perfectly fine to have hobbies that you enjoy. There is nothing wrong with spending money on yourself.

Personally, I grew up poor. I also find that charity is one of my biggest priorities. It is hard for me to be frivolous, and that's what dolls are. Sometimes guilt does try to kick in, but when it does I do check to make certain that all of my priorities are still in order. Dolls, as much as I like them, are at the bottom of the list. As long as their financial priority is also at the bottom of the list, the guilt goes away for me.

I grew up poor too ~repressitall~ which made me treasure what dolls I could get and learn to make clothes and make do for them. Could explain why I'm so willing to spoil my "children" now. All my bills are paid every month, I have no debt, live within my means, and can make myself save for a future reward. There's no human children to worry about just cats, I graduated college, took care of myself, and deserve my healthy hobby.

There's been a few times I've wondered what in the world will I due with this doll but I've made it work for my web site. "I don't have one of those" is a great excuse, then you start running out of room.

I defiantely get doll guilt trips. I get guilt trips any time I ever buy anything for myself though. I've found that, for me, it's all about balance. When I feel like I've spent a bit too much of my spending money on 'me things', I make sure to donate some of my next month's spending money to a charity or, if that isn't possible, I volunteer or, heck, even make it a point to do something nice for a stranger I see at the super market. I feel like it helps to balance the universe out a bit, (or at least the universe in my head lol). And it's just as much fun as getting a new doll!

I discovered these dolls just when I was no longer able to work. Mostly they come when there is extra money. And sometimes I have sold other dolls to get them. If I really want one, I will do what I have to in order to afford it. I still feel guilty sometimes, but they are part of my priorities. I have had some really hard lessons in making my needs a priority. We pay bills first, and I have actually been able to help sometimes! Playing with dolls has gotten me back to doing some work, and since it involves them as well it's a bonus!

What makes me feel guilty is that while I was studying, the last few years my parents have helped me out financially and buying dolls isn't helping me pay them back very quickly :-\

If I feel like I've spent too much on dolls, I usually try to pick up extra hours at work to make up for in the few weeks after that. Thankfully I've set myself up to have a lot more extra income this summer, but that also means I need to not spend it all on dolls like I would like to.

For buying...no. For selling...sometimes.

Every doll I've bought has been with money I have earned and was able to use without cutting into bill money. If we are short on cash and have needs, I'll put off the doll needs until after everything else is paid. And most of my dolls have been purchased from selling my other stuff to get them or work bonuses or over time. Also, I have no pets or children, so no living things are being neglected for the hobby. So no. No guilt.

But sometimes I do feel guilty for selling dolls, especially if I paid a lot for it and have to take a loss on it. But its not even so much guilt as frustration.