Teh Suckz Thread

[catshem]

Heheh knittnkitten, I wish I could "like" your post. XD

Why not just say that, exactly, Cat? "Don't compliment me, and I don't want to meet up with you. My husband won't like it."

Lol don't worry I am. I have a handle on it, it's just frustrating.

[OkamiKodomo]

Hehe I understand. Believe me. >.< I had a friend in high school that had a huge crush on me... he was.... persistent. XD

[Siead]

Do I want to talk to him? Not really. I've blocked the majority of possible communication ports; only FB messages is open because it's unavoidable

if you block them and delete them as a friend, they cannot message you, search you or (i think) see your posts, even through mutual friends. or at least can't comment on them. but you have to do both blocking and deleting.

[Trethowan]

Do I want to talk to him? Not really. I've blocked the majority of possible communication ports; only FB messages is open because it's unavoidable

if you block them and delete them as a friend, they cannot message you, search you or (i think) see your posts, even through mutual friends. or at least can't comment on them. but you have to do both blocking and deleting.

Yep, this is true. I've blocked a grand total of three uber-losers from Facebook. They don't even exist in my world. You'll want to do that. It's great.

[victoriavictrix]

gotta love that bossy friend who thinks they know your situation. You're so wonderfully supportive when you tell me to tell my husband to "get over it." Yes, yes, he's totally going to just brush off and get over another dude-whose historically tried to get it on with his wife-talking to her again.

Do I want to talk to him? Not really. I've blocked the majority of possible communication ports; only FB messages is open because it's unavoidable.

I didn't even expect the guy to try coming on to me again. I was for years out of communication with him, he was married. Now he's divorced and active on FB again and me, not thinking, said to him "oh, glad to hear you're alive, sorry about your divorce. hope you're doing well." and then BAM! Dude's all over me likes we're gonna be besties with benefits. NOPE. Dude, I don't mind chatting but no, you will NOT say how 'cute' I am; No, we will not be "meeting up"; and No, we will NOT "role play."

Leave him one message to the effect of "you have totally offended me, and I wouldn't want you 100 miles near me if you were the last living creature on earth," then block him on FB. After that, if he communicates with you in ANY way, report him to YOUR local police and HIS local police for cyberstalking or IRL stalking. Research stalking laws in your state. And, if neccessary, prepare to take out a restraining order against him, and if he contacts you somehow again after THAT, you can have his ass thrown in jail.

If he's not totally crazy, one little call from the police will cool his jets fast. If he IS totally crazy, you've started a paper trail on him to get him put away. Or at least, get him to go obsess over someone that thinks such behavior is "cute."

[catshem]

I'm trying to bank on the idea that he is not completely nutters. I knew him in HS school and really he only suffered from Nice Guy syndrome; believing that he was such an upstanding guy that I owed him some attention. Right now I'm just going for minimal contact, if it snowballs then I'll block him completely, I don't use FB that often anyway. He's not as persistent currently, something I believe it's because I'm not going out of my way for contact and have removed the major forms of getting in contact with me. Though, I do worry about coming across him in public because he will approach me-if hubs is present then hopefully no. It probably sounds idiotic but I do have a handle on it right now enough that blocking him seems like overkill. I just remember how he was back in HS which puts me on guard to look out for attempts on his part. Idk, it is very out of the blue though. He got married, I got married, and we haven't talk for years I think because of that (I think he was mad at me), and then he's divorced and talking to me. It screams trouble and I am dancing with a shield to smack him with when it crosses a line.

This will probably come up again because in order to not drive myself into sleepless nights, I have to get it off my mind. Thank you guys for being sane and not saying what my bossy friend said to me.

[Kirahfaye]

Cat, I really think you should head off any potential for future trouble and just block the guy on FB. If he's not an important part of your past then cutting off contact would be the best thing. I've known someone like this before and if you don't shut the door on him completely he will continue to look for ways to interact with you. To leave him a means to contact you could actually be "enabling" him to continue his behavior.

[kittyasauras]

I have like 50 million shipping slips to print up and now my printer decides to be an ass. <___>

I'm about to throw it up against the wall and buy a new one. Last week I got it to print after much coaxing but now it won't and I'm just through with it. Time to get a new one. uuuuuugggggahhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

[catshem]

Fffff-- I have to spot clean my Goulia repaint before I can even let myself put her on Etsy and I swear I'm just making it worse. Omg. *headdesk*

[Trethowan]

Cat, I really think you should head off any potential for future trouble and just block the guy on FB. If he's not an important part of your past then cutting off contact would be the best thing. I've known someone like this before and if you don't shut the door on him completely he will continue to look for ways to interact with you. To leave him a means to contact you could actually be "enabling" him to continue his behavior.

I'll second the motion. Nip it! Nip it in the bud! *makes Barney Fife face*