Teh Suckz Thread

[Evelien]

The blog is the cheapest option, but their communication is very poor and slow, they shipped my doll about a month after they'd received her from AE (even though they said they'd shipped her a month earlier) and they'll force you to mark your PayPal payment as a personal payment. I got my doll without any REAL trouble in the end but I can't say I recommend them. It took a looong time and lots of insecurity about where she was because at some point they seemed to have lost her.

[Dirili]

Ug yeah, that's not much of an endorsement at all...
I'm teetering here... I REALLY want Crystal, but neither AE themselves nor the blog guy sound like good options. And of course Mint on Card is closed till October.... plus it's nice that the blog spot has basic Crystal.

But the longer I wait for someone to answer me, the more I start to feel like maybe it's just fate or something and she isn't for me.

I'm in the midst of ordering a batch of dolls now to round out the collection and hopefully this will finish off things.
Just purchased Bellatrix and Antares from Soom. Both 80cm dolls.
Trying to buy ChenXing from LoongSoul, but ug, they are nearly as bad as AE... http://loongsouldoll.com/Product_Show.asp?id=257
And the last things I'm thinking about are EID Arvid with model body this time from Iplehouse. The doll I SHOULD have gotten! But I do love my Bichun, so I don't regret it. Kind of also really want SID Lee too, but I'm not sure if he's going to fit into my spending cap or not... this is already a pretty tall order.

[happyknot]

I had to help my mom get to her feet today - literally put my arms under hers and lift her up. She is so very weak from the radiation and lack of proper food. We're glad that today is her last treatment, I don't think she can take anymore. Watching her suffer so much...there aren't any words to describe how sad it is.

[OkamiKodomo]

Spending nights, and I just told my fiance that I asked him not to have people over this week and he goes "what so I can't have people over while you're not home?" and I pointed out that he's still here, two hours after I've gotten home, and he goes "You're lucky I haven't already invited him to crash here, because he has nowhere else to go."

I'm the lucky one? Really now.

"havent already" does that mean he's planning to invite him to stay? whos name is on the place you're living in? if its yours you could prolly call the police and have his friend removed if he wont kick him out.

Both our names were on the original lease. Now we don't have a lease; it's month to month.

[Kirahfaye]

Dirili, I just checked the MoC web site and it's their store that won't open until October. They are hoping to be back online by the end of August or early Sept. Maybe that will help?

[victoriavictrix]

Spending nights, and I just told my fiance that I asked him not to have people over this week and he goes "what so I can't have people over while you're not home?" and I pointed out that he's still here, two hours after I've gotten home, and he goes "You're lucky I haven't already invited him to crash here, because he has nowhere else to go."

I'm the lucky one? Really now.

"havent already" does that mean he's planning to invite him to stay? whos name is on the place you're living in? if its yours you could prolly call the police and have his friend removed if he wont kick him out.

Both our names were on the original lease. Now we don't have a lease; it's month to month.

Move out. Now. Even if you have to move back in with your parents temporarily. This is not ever going to get better. You do not deserve to be a doormat. Get your friends, come in, take your stuff and leave him with the lease and the bills.

[Trethowan]

That's the best advice for sure. Man, get outta there pronto.

[OkamiKodomo]

Both our names were on the original lease. Now we don't have a lease; it's month to month.

Move out. Now. Even if you have to move back in with your parents temporarily. This is not ever going to get better. You do not deserve to be a doormat. Get your friends, come in, take your stuff and leave him with the lease and the bills.

I swear he's bipolar. He's right back to being considerate about people over. I gave him the silent treatment all night last night, after his little bullshit comment. Today he asked if I minded his other friend (not the couch surfer) stopped by for ten minutes to say hi. I said "When I said I don't want to see or hear ANYONE for the rest of the week, I meant it." and he went to visit with him instead. This passive aggressive crap has got to go. I try to be understanding, I really do. There are family and socialization issues with him that go back to his childhood. A lot of it is the way he was raised. I would like to think something I need for my emotional, mental, and even physical well-being, isn't too much to ask. Our relationship is normally a good one. We really don't fight often at all. But the constant point of contention is the pothead friends over. I need... scratch that, CRAVE privacy. I'm the exact opposite of a social butterfly. I'm very secretive and isolated in my natural habitat. I need visits to be scheduled; getting unexpected guests causes me anxiety. I feel like, after seven years, six of which have been spent living together, he should KNOW this already. I don't mind if he goes out to socialize, so long as we have two or three nights a week together, just the two of us.

All that being said, the reason I can't leave this very minute is because I can't get a transfer to New Mexico, (where my mother now lives) and I'm not willing to risk my job, after just having taken on a car payment.

On a COMPLETELY unrelated note, I charlie-horsed my leg breaking down that road show yesterday, and aggravated it this morning setting up the new one. Ugh.

[Dirili]

I'm very much like you Okami! Definitely NEED my time alone.

Hopefully your man will stay in cooperative mode at least for a long time. I know well that it's a lot easier said than done dumping someone you care for even when they walk all over you. If he keeps doing that though eventually it'll wear you down enough that you could leave him without batting an eye.

My first boyfriend I was with on and off for 6 years. By the time I broke up with him, it was simply a relief.

[OkamiKodomo]

It hasn't been an on-off relationship. It's been steady for seven years. We do normally have a good relationship. It's just this one major, glaring issue. It was the reason for the near break-up last summer. It was something that was brought up in couples' therapy. I am not social. I like to go out clubbing once in a great while, for the dancing (even though I dance like every other uncoordinated white woman in the world), but that is, at best, once every few months. Other than that, and the time I spend doing quiet things with my other two introvert friends, I don't enjoy interaction with humans face-to-face. To have it forced on me is very upsetting and rattling, not to mention draining.