Teh Suckz Thread

[PopularFizzyDrink]

Customs fee of forty quid. Ouch.

[happyknot]

My mom passed away on the 8th. The family is helping me out a lot but my own friends have been pretty absent. Since moving in with my mom to take care of her I haven't been the most stable person. I probably might have done better with steady support but as my mom's health declined and I had to be by her side to help with her daily living, my friends became scarce until I rarely heard from them except for their occasional "like" on my FB status.

I even forgot it was my birthday on the 10th because I spent the day price checking at cemeteries and settling legal matters. My friends didn't call.

I have no one to talk to anymore.

[Kirahfaye]

Oh, Happyknot, I'd hug you right now if I could! I know you feel alone, but please know that it's probably because your friends just don't know how to react. Please don't unconsciously isolate yourself. If your friends aren't reaching out to you, reach out to them. You need time to grieve, but you also need friends. You shouldn't have to reach out to them, but sometimes we have to take an extra step or two beyond ourselves during difficult times just to help get to a better place.

[famedglory]

Oh Happyknot I am so sorry. I don't know what to say, but I'm sure it's a lot like what Kirahfaye said. Some of my behavior that I regret the most has happened when a friend lost someone and I didn't know how to react so I figured I'd just "give them space" because "they should be with their family now" which is dumb as hell and I should have picked up the stupid phone instead. When you're up for it, try reaching out to one of them. They might surprise you with how supportive they can be once they realize you want it. In the meantime *internet hugs*

[Dirili]

oh no, I'm so sorry happyknot I know it's going to be really hard for you for a while. My prayers will be with you.

[DollyKim]

You have us and all he hugs in the world.

[mica]

Boy do I understand the isolation being a caregiver to parents can be...
(((((Giant HUG))))) try not to become depressed as you start out on your new life...
maybe you can find new friends as you find time now...
I always wonder what life is like after caregiving.....
Peace to your heart

[Jany]

Aw, Happyknot! I may just be the new girl, but - *hugs* hope this helps anyway! *hugs again just to make sure*

[darkfairykara]

@Happyknot: I'm sorry. -hugs- I agree with what some others have said reach out to you friends. if they don't respond or don't seem to care....they weren't very good friends. I hope you are doing well health wise though.

[Lamia of the Dark]

Oh, happyknot... we're your friends and you can talk to us, even though we aren't physically there with you...

Losing a parent (or any family member that you are close to) is always tough